The lazy days of summer have come and gone, and the school year is full steam ahead. But with our children’s school day followed by homework, sports, music lessons, dance classes, and them wanting to spend time with friends, it’s no wonder many of them are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. While we want to enrich our children’s lives through a wide variety of fun and enjoyable activities, helping them become well-rounded people, we also must help them find balance in their lives and minimize stress. Sometimes this means cutting back on the “extra stuff.”
It's challenging because there are many benefits to the extra stuff, like building self-esteem, discovering self-interests, teaching responsibility, helping to grow friendships, etc. The extra stuff can be good for them, so knowing when it’s too much may not always be that simple.
In an article shared by Synergy Academics, Dr. Jerry Bubrick, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, encourages parents to ask ourselves the following questions to determine if our children are overscheduled:
Those risks include our children:
Figure out how much time your child needs on average, to complete daily and weekend homework. This will vary for every child and planning is key. From there you will know how much time is left in your child’s schedule to dedicate to extracurricular activities, knowing that time may need slight adjustments around school testing, big projects, etc.
To help minimize the stress that surrounds homework, and help your child make the most of their study time, encourage them to follow these simple tips:
Young people are much less likely to feel overwhelmed with school and homework when they’ve taken steps to be prepared, organized, and focused. These steps will also help to free up time to then put toward the extra stuff, like spending much-needed time with their friends, participating in their favorite sports, playing an instrument, taking a dance class, etc.
Of course, there are additional stressors that come with school, as well as extracurriculars, which can overwhelm and exhaust our children. In the tip to follow, we will look at ways to help our children unwind and destress on a regular basis to maintain healthy minds and bodies.
Tips For School Personnel
Are your students overscheduled and stressed out? Pose these questions in the classroom and let your students determine for themselves.
Tell them that if they answered “no” to any of these questions, then they are overscheduled and need to talk to their parents about ways to adjust or cut back.
Synergy Academics: Balancing School and Extracurricular Activities. Oct. 16, 2019.
Eli Terry Jr. Middle School (Terryville, CT): Study and Homework Tips for Middle School Students.
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